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Yanditswe na: Ubwanditsi     2021-02-11 05:09:47


Ibintu 8 abagabo bakenera ariko batazi uko babisaba

Mu buzima busanzwe umugabo hari byinshi akenera ku mugore we nyamara bikamugora kubisobanura cyangwa kubimenyesha umufasha we. Aha niho hakenerwa uruhare rw’umugore kugira ngo abashe kuvumbura ibyo umugabo we amukeneyeho kandi amufashe nk’uko bombi ari umubiri umwe.

1.Kumwereka icyubahiro

Nuko namwe umuntu wese akunde umugore we nk’uko yikunda, kugira ngo umugore na we abone uko yubaha umugabo we. Abefeso 5:33.

Nta kintu numva cyiza kuruta igihe umugabo wanjye ankunda neza. Ariko abagabo kugira ngo babwire abagore ko bashaka icyubahiro birabagora. Akenshi iki cyubahiro kigaragarira mu tuntu duto. Umugore wese akwiye kwibaza ati “Ni gute mvugana n’umugabo wanjye imbere y’abandi? Urwenya rurimo ibitutsi rushobora gukomeretsa umutima w’umugabo cyane cyane iyo biva kumugore we akunda. Mubyukuri birakwiye kumwubaha imbere y’abandi kandi ubikuye ku mutima kandi mwembi mwizeye Imana ibihe byose.

2.Kumenya imvugo ye y’urukundo

Igitabo cya Dr. Gary Chapman cyitwa “5 Love languages” “5 Indimi z’urukundo” ni ahantu heza ho gutangirira kwiga ibijyanye no kuzuza ibigega by’urukundo. Waba uzi ururimi uvuga kugirango ukururure ibitekerezo bye?

Imvugo 5 z’urukundo ni: 1. Kumuha igihe, 2. Kumukorera ibikorwa bimushimisha, 3. Kumukora ku mubiri, 4. Kumuha impano, 5. Kumubwira amagambo amwemeza.

3. Kuba umuntu ushyigikira ibikorwa bye

Nk’umugore mu rugo, inkunga yawe igira uruhare runini mu gushoboza umugabo wawe kugera ku nsinzi no kumererwa neza. Stephen Arterburn yasobanuye uburyo abagabo banezezwa n’uko abagore babo babashigikira agira ati: "Inkunga nkeya ituruka ku mugore ishobora kuvamo umusaruro ukomeye cyane.

4. Hindura urugo ahantu heza kandi hatekanye

Ntugafate umugabo wawe ngo umugereranye n’undi muntu. Rimwe na rimwe, ntitwumva uburyo gutaka umugabo w’undi bituma abagabo bacu bumva ko bacishijwe bugufi cyangwa ko nta cyubahiro bafite mu rugo. Dukwiye kwiyumvisha uko byagenda umugabo aramutse yishimira ku kazi kuko ari ho hantu hamuha amahoro, nyamara yagera mu rugo akabihirwa. Ibi bivamo ingaruka mbi zo kumara amasaha menshi ahandi yiganyira gutaha kuko aba azi ko imuhira ari ahantu hatameze neza.

5.Ibuka ko ari ikiremwamuntu

Gutegereza ko umuntu atungana kuri buri kimwe cyose ni ikintu kidashoboka. N’ubwo umugabo yaba afite inenge, umugabo wawe agukeneyeho ko umukunda ntumuhore cyangwa ngo umwiture ibihwanye n’ibidatunganye akora.

6. Kwiyitaho ubwawe

Wowe mugore ntukeneye gusa n’undi, ahubwo ba wowe ubwawe.Umugabo wawe yashakanye nawe. Reka kwisuzugura cyangwa ngo wishyire ku muvuduko wo gusa n’undi muntu. Mu mubiri, mu marangamutima, no mu mwuka, gerageza kuba uwo ukwiye kuba we. Umugabo ugukunda yishimira kukubonana ubumuntu nyakuri.

7.Reka umugabo wawe agire umwanya wo kuganira na bagenzi be.

Abagabo bakeneye itsinda ry’abavandimwe kugira ngo babafashe kuba beza, ariko ashobora kutagendana na bo aramutse atakubonye muri icyo cyerekezo. Imwe mu mbogamizi ikunze kubuza abagabo kugira uruhare mu murimo w’Imana hamwe na bagenzi babo ni uko abagore babahoza ku nkeke babatonganya bababuza kugendana n’incuti zabo.

8. Musengere

Bibiliya ivuga ko umugore mwiza asengera umugabo we. Sengana n’umugabo wawe niba ubishoboye, ariko kandi wibuke kumusengera wenyine wiherereye.Kwera imbuto no gukora imirimo myiza no kongera ubumenyi mu by’iImana byose bifatanyiriza hamwe kuzana ibyiza hagati y’abashakanye.

Muri macye birakwiye ko abashakanye bafatanyiriza hamwe, nibura umuntu akamenya ibyo mugenzi we akunda gukorerwa ariko bikaba bimugora kubivuga. Ni byiza kugira umuco wo gusenga Imana mukayiragiza urugo rwanyu kugira ngo mubashe kubaka umuryango uhamye kandi uzira icyasha.

Source: crosswalk.com

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