Tandukanya urukundo rw’irambagiza n’urukundo rwubaka urugo

Mu gusoza inyigigisho y’ubushize, yari ifite umutwe ugira uti: "Interuro eshatu zo kwitondera mu gihe uhitamo uwo muzabana" twabararikiye ko ubutaha tuzaganira ku itandukaniro n’isano iri hagati y’urukundo rugaragara mu gihe cyo kurambagiza ndetse n’urukundo ruugaragara mu gihe wamaze kubana n’uwo wihebeye. Ni muri urwo rwego rero tugiye kurebera hamwe uko biba byifashe.

Wakwibaza uti: "Ese ibyo mbona ubu tukiri mu irambagiza, nzakomeza kubibona nitumara no kubana?"

Imana ihuza Adamu na Eva, nta byaha byabaga mu isi, hari amahoro yuzuye imiruho n’impinduka byo mu mibanire byaje nyuma aho bamariye gucumura. Twibuke kandi ko Adamu na Eva batigeze bagira igihe cyo kurambagiza, bakangutse umwe abona undi nuko bakomeza ubuzima, nta yandi mahitamo yarahari, kandi buri wese yumvise anyuzwe rwose. Mu yandi magambo Imana yikoreye imirimo yose ibanziriza ukubana.

Dore uko ubuzima bwo kurambagiza buba bumeze ari nabyo bicanira urukundo:

1. Muhura mwitunganije ibihe byose musa neza ndetse muhumura
2. Muvugana gake cyangwa kenshi ariko mwitonze ndetse mukumva umwanya ubabana muto
3. Muhura mukumburanye niyo mubonanye kenshi mwikanga kwica ubuhamya mukagabanya
4. Ntawe ubwira undi nabi cyane ko bigoye kubona icyo umuhora
5. Ntawe ukunda kwerekana intege nke ze, inenge, ingeso, kamere n’ibindi
6. Kwihangana no kwiyumanganya biba biri hejuru cyane ngo uwawe atababara
7. Ibyaha byo kubeshya bibatsinda kenshi ngo ni ugusigasira urukundo
8. Isoni no gutinyana bituma amakosa amwe namwe ataboneka hakaboneka ibyiza gusa
9. Amatsiko menshi yo kubonana (Kuryamana) atera amarangamutima guhorana impuhwe n’ibambe
10. Amagambo meza asize umunyu atuma iteka hahoraho ubushake bwo kuganira
11. Gusohokana, impano no gutungurana bituma urukumbuzi rudashira
12. Abakobwa bagerageza guteta n’abatabizi barabyiga kuko bikurura abahungu cyane. Aha biba bikaze
13. Abahungu bihagararaho bakarinda agaciro kabo kuko kubahwa bibagwa neza cyane
14. Buri wese avuga ibyo akunda asanisha n’ibyo mugenzi we abona akunda (Barahishanya cyane)
15. Akajambo k’urukundo kabanziriza byose kagaheruka byose

Ibyo mvuze haruguru ni bikeya ugereranije n’ibibera hagati y’abakundana bitegura kurushinga.

Reka turebe nanone uko bigenda nyuma yo kubana, duse n’ababigereranya n’ibyo twabonye hejuru mu irambagiza:

1. Mubonana ibihe byose, mwaba musa neza ndetse munasa nabi
2. Muvugana ibihe byose kandi muba mufite umwanya uhagije ndetse usaga wo kuba muri kumwe
3. Murahorana ibihe byose gukumburana ntibibaho ndetse biri mu nshingano kuba hamwe iteka
4. Bibaho ko mukoserezanya ndetse bikaba byatuma muvugana nabi rimwe na rimwe
5. Si ngombwa ko umwe yereka undi intege nke ze, inenge, ingeso, kamere n’ibindi. abibona rugikubita
6. Kwihangana no kwiyumanganya biratinda bikagabanuka bikaba ngombwa kubwizanya ukuri
7. Ntabwo wabeshya umuntu mubana iteka, agera aho akamenya ukuri atanakubajije
8. Isoni no gutinyana birashira burundu kuko muba mwabaye umuntu umwe, amakosa yose araboneka
9. Amatsiko aba nk’ashize, hagakenerwa ibindi byunganira uburiri bituma amarangamutima ahoraho
10. Amagambo meza asize umunyu ntabwo akunda iteka, hari n’igihe arambirana akenera inyunganizi
11. Ibibazo n’inshingano byo mu rugo bibangamira imyidagaduro, iyo aricyo kibahuza rurashonga
12. Hari igihe guteta bidakunda cyangwa bikagabanuka, cyane iyo hajemo amakosa no kurakaranya, cyangwa abana nabo bagomba guteteshwa
13. Hari igihe biba bibi bigasaba umugabo guca bugufi, iyo akomeye ku cyubahiro aha biba bibi cyane
14. Ibyo umwe akunda hari ubwo bibangamira undi, bigasaba kwigomwa kubwa mugenzi wawe
15. Ibikorwa byiza by’urukundo bikenerwa kuruta amagambo nubwo nayo atari mabi

Ese umuntu agereranije urukundo twavuzeho rwo mu irambagiza n’uru tuvuzeho rwo mu rugo yasanga ari bimwe?

-Ni iki kigukurura kigutera gukunda uwo ukunda cyane? Ese ubona bihindutse wakomeza ukamukunda?

Nk’uko wavutse uri muto ukagenda ukura igihe kikagera ugacuka ku ibere ugatangira kwigaburira, ninako urukundo rukivuka ruhendahendwa igihe kikagera rugacuka rukajya mu kuri k’ubuzima (Life realities), aho mutabanira ko wabonye ubutumwa bugufi (sms) cyangwa bagusohokanye, ahubwo mukabana mudafite na telefone cyangwa aho kuba ari ikibazo.

Ntiwaba utarishyura banki cyangwa ngo wishyure inzu mubamo, ngo utegereze gusohoka buri wikendi (Week end). Bibaho ariko ni zazindi zitamara kabiri. Aha byumvikane neza, ntibivuze ko itangiriro ryo kubaka urugo ari iherezo ry’umunezero, ahubwo ni itangiriro ry’umunezero nyawo ufite aho ushingiye kandi ushyigikirwa n’Imana n’abantu. Ni umunezero udatera kwicuza.

Kwitiranya urukundo rwo kurambagiza n’urukundo ruzubaka biri muri bimwe biri gutuma ingo zitakiramba na busa. Bakirisitu bavandimwe, dufatanye guhashya ikibazo cyo gusenyuka kw’ingo muri iki gihe. Tubisengere nk’icyifuzo, ariko twigishe abakiri bato ibijyanye n’ubuzima bubategereje imbere, kuko umwana apfira cyangwa agakirira mu iterura, kandi uburere bukaba buruta ubuvuke. Kuko abenshi bananizwa no kubona ibitandukanye n’ibyo biringiraga, cyangwa ubumenyi budahagije mu buzima bugatuma ibintu bito cyane bisanzwe bihinduka ibibazo binini kugeza urugo rusenyutse!

Urukundo rwo kurambagiza rero narugereranya na wa muriro waka ku twatsi twumye igihe bafatisha iziko cyangwa imbabura. Hanyuma urukundo rwo mu rugo nkarugereranya na wamuriro ukomeza kwaka bagateka, mbega iziko ryamaze gufatwa cyangwa imbabura.

Ubutaha tuzarebera hamwe umuriro wafashwe nk’ikigereranyo cy’urukundo rwo mu rugo.

Komeza ubane natwe, Imana iguhe umugisha!

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