Menya uburyo wafasha abana kwihanganira ibijyanye no gupfusha.

Iyo umuryango runaka wapfushije, ababyeyi kimwe n’abandi bavandimwe n’incuti, akenshi ntibamenya icyo bavuga cyangwa icyo bakora kugira ngo bafashe abana kwihanganira ibyabaye. Nyamara burya, abana bakenera ko abantu bakuru babafasha kwihanganira ibihereranye no gupfusha.

Dore bimwe mu bibazo bikunze kubazwa ku bihereranye no gufasha abana gusobanukirwa iby’urupfu.

Ni gute wasobanurira abana iby’urupfu?

Ni byiza gusobanura ibintu mu magambo yoroshye. Kandi nanone utange ibisobanuro by’ukuri. Ntuzuyaze gukoresha amagambo yabigenewe nka “yapfuye” n’“urupfu.” Urugero, ushobora kwicarana n’umwana, ukamukikira, maze ukamubwira uti “twagize ibyago bikomeye. Papa yarwaye mu buryo bukomeye indwara idasanzwe [cyangwa se ubimubwire ukundi ariko utamubeshya] none yapfuye.

Kuba yapfuye nta we byaturutseho. Tuzagira agahinda kenshi ko kumubura kuko twamukundaga kandi na we yadukundaga.” Icyakora nanone, ni byiza gusobanurira uwo mwana ko we ubwe cyangwa se umubyeyi we wasigaranye na we atazahita apfa ngo kubera ko na we ajya arwara rimwe na rimwe.

Batere inkunga yo kubaza ibibazo. Bashobora kubaza bati “bapfa gute?” Ushobora kubasubiza muri ubu buryo uti “‘bapfa’ iyo umubiri uhagaze gukora maze umuntu ntiyongere kugira ikintu abasha gukora mu byo yakoraga ntashobore kongera kuvuga, kureba cyangwa se kugira ikintu na kimwe yumva.”

Ku mubyeyi w’umukristo ubasobanurira ko ubuzima butarangirira mw’isi ko nanyuma y’urupfu abakijijwe basongera bakabaho. Luka 23:43, Yohana 5:28,29

Mbese, hari ibyo ugomba kwirinda kuvuga?

Nta cyo bimaze kuvuga ko uwapfuye yagiye mu rugendo rwa kure. Ubwoba bwo kuba bamusize ni bwo buhangayikisha umwana, cyane cyane iyo yapfushije umubyeyi.

Kubwira umwana ko uwapfuye yagiye mu rugendo, bishobora kurushaho guhinga mu mwana igitekerezo cy’uko bamutaye maze agatekereza ati ‘nyogokuru yansize ntiyanansezeraho!’ Gira amakenga nanone ntubwire umwana muto ko uwapfuye yasinziriye.

Abana bakunze gufata ibintu uko byakabaye ijambo ku rindi. Umwana niyumva ko gusinzira ari kimwe no gupfa, ashobora kujya atinya kujya kuryama nijoro.
Mbese, abana bagomba kugira uruhare mu mihango y’ihamba?

Ababyeyi bagomba kwita ku byiyumvo by’abana. Niba badashaka kujya muri iyo mihango, ntubahatire kuyijyamo cyangwa se ngo ubumvishe ko bagize nabi kuba batayigiyemo.

Niba bashaka kuyijyamo, basobanurire neza uko biza kugenda, niba hari buze kuba hari isanduku [irimo umurambo], niba se iri bube ifunguye cyangwa se ifunze. Ubasobanurire ko bashobora kubona abantu benshi barira kubera ko bababaye. Nanone ubareke babaze ibibazo.

Unabahumurize ubabwira ko bashobora kuza kwigendera igihe bashakiye.

Abana babyifatamo bate iyo bapfushije?

Akenshi abana bumva ari bo batumye uwo bakundaga apfa. Kubera ko hari igihe umwana ashobora kuba yarigeze kurakarira uwapfuye, ashobora kwibwira ko ubwo burakari cyangwa se amagambo ashingiye ku burakari yamubwiye ari yo yatumye apfa. Bishobora kuba ngombwa kumuhumuriza ugira uti ‘ibitekerezo byawe n’amagambo uvuga si yo yatuma umuntu arwara, kandi si na yo yatuma umuntu apfa.’
Umwana muto ashobora gukenera guhumurizwa bene ubwo buryo incuro nyinshi.
Mbese, byaba byiza guhisha abana agahinda ufite?

Kuririra imbere y’abana ni ibintu bisanzwe kandi bishobora kugira icyo bifasha ku buzima. Yewe, ntibinashoboka gukumira ibyiyumvo byawe imbere y’abana; bakunze kwitegereza no kumenya ko hari ikintu kitagenda. Kugaragaza agahinda kawe mu buryo butaryarya, bituma bamenya ko kugira agahinda no kugaragaza rimwe na rimwe ibyiyumvo ari ibintu bisanzwe.

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