Interuro eshatu zo kwitondera mu gihe cyo guhitamo uwo muzabana


Nta kintu cyiza nko kugira urugo rwiza. Abantu benshi bakunze kugira amahitamo mabi bitewe n’ibintu byinshi bitandukanye. Hari abatari bake bakurikira ibyo babwiwe n’abahanuzi, hari abifashisha abaranga, hari abakurikira isura, ubutunzi, amashuri, n’ibindi bigaragara ku maso. Hari n’abandi bakurikirana inzira bumvanye abandi mu gihe cyo guhitamo uwo bazabana. Ubu buhamya n’amateka y’umuntu ukunda ni bimwe mu byagutera ishyaka bigatuma ugwiza imbaraga zo kwihangana ariko iyo ushatse ko bigenda nk’uko runaka byagenze akenshi birangira bitagenze neza.

Amateka y’urugo n’urukundo ni umwihariko w’umukunzi n’ukundwa, ntabwo ari rusange. Nta muntu uhari wakubwira uko ubigenza, icyakora yakunganira akakugira inama akagusengera n’ibindi nk’ibyo. Ariko ikindi cyose cyashingirwaho mu guhitamo uwo muzabana kidashingiye ku rukundo nyakuri nta cyizere cyo kuramba kiba gihari. Ibi biba bisa no kwimura ubuzima, umurage, umwimerere w’urugo rumwe ngo urundi abe ari byo rwubakirwaho, kandi ntibishoboka.

Abisirayeli babujijwe kuvana gakondo mu muryango umwe ngo ijye mu wundi kuko imiryango y’Abisiraheri yose izaba ikwiye kugumana akaramata gakondo yayo, (Kubara36:9) None bagumana gakondo zabo akaramata baratandukanye? Oya bivuze ko nabo baba babanye akaramata. Mu yandi magambo, kwimurira gakondo y’umuryango mu wundi, bisA no kuwusenya kuko ntihaba hakiriho kubana akaramata.

Uko iminsi ihita niko hagenda hagaragara gusenyuka kw’ingo gukabije. Uwashaka kugabanya iki kibazo mu miryango, yaba hafi y’abashakanye ariko umusaruro yabona si mwinshi nko kuba yakwegera abatarashaka kuko inzira umuntu yanyuzemo ahitamo uwo bazabana ziri mu bigaruka cyane mu gutana. Umushinga w’umuryango (Urugo) watangijwe n’Imana ubwayo mu ngobyi ya Edeni, inshingano umugabo yahawe n’umugore nta hantu zigeze zihinduka. (Itangiriro: 2 : gukomeza)

Uko ibinyejana byakurikiranye kugeza ubu, usanga umwimerere waragiye uhinduka aho abantu basigaye bashingira ku bindi bintu byitwikira ishusho y’urukundo. Igihamya ko atari urukundo koko, ni uko iyo bitagihari, rwa rukundo ruhita rubura. Nubwo abenshi mub’iki gihe batagikunda kumva ukuri, ariko ikintu wakorera umuntu wayobye ukaba umufashije mu buryo burambye, ni ukumwereka aho yayobeye agasubira mu nzira nzima. Imana yagennye ko urugo rwubakirwa ku rukundo rwuzuye ntakizabisimbura na rimwe.

Urukundo abifuza kurushingana bakwiye gukundana rurasa n’urwo Yesu yakunze itorero, nk’uko biri muri ya mirongo twatanze haruguru.

Dore interuro eshatu zo kwitondera mu gihe cyo guhitamo uwo muzabana:

1. NDAGUKUNDA KUKO

Uru rukundo rushingira ku mpamvu ntabwo rwafasha urugo kuramba. Niba uwo mukundana akubwira ngo aragukunda kuko (Uri inzobe, umugenera amafaranga y’ishuri, uririmba neza, umusoma ku itama, wambara uku n’uku, wemera ibyo ashaka byose…) waba ugenza gakeya ugasenga cyane ugasaba Imana kubara intambwe zawe kuko gushaka nabi ni igihombo kitagaruzwa. Nta mahirwe yo gusubira inyuma ngo wikosore tubona mu ijambo ry’Imana. Kabone n’ubwo mwatana, Bibiliya ntibyemera, kereka gusa ku cyaha cyo gusambana n’ubwo nabwo igusaba kutongera na rimwe gushaka ukaba aho gutyo gusa, ubirenzeho nawe yitwa umusambanyi (Matayo 19:8-9).

2. NDAGUKUNDA NIBA

Uru narwo ni urukundo ruherekejwe n’ububata bukomeye. Ndagukunda niba: Wemera gukora ibi n’ibi, Wemeye ko turyamana, twishyingira, ungurira imodoka, uva mu idini yawe, uzinukwa abantu runaka…

Uru rukundo rufite amabwiriza narwo ntabwo rwagufasha kubaka ngo rukomere. Bisa no kuba imbata kandi mu byo Yesu yadukoreye bikomeye, yadukuriyeho kuba imbata y’ikintu cyose, atwigarurira wenyine. Aha abakobwa bahahurira n’ibibazo bikomeye kuko usanga basabwa kugira byinshi bubahiriza kugira ngo bakunde bemerwe, akenshi na kenshi ugasanga binahabanye n’ibyo yemera cyangwa yemererwa.

Nibwo uzabona yarahinduye imyifatire agatangira kugirana amakimbirane n’abantu batandukanye bamufite mu nshingano kandi nawe akaba atariko yifuzaga kumera ahubwo ari ukugira ngo akunde yemerwe n’umurambagiza. Uru narwo si urukundo rwo kubakiraho.

Abasore benshi iyo bahuye n’uru rukundo batangira kuba abanyabinyoma, bakabeshya imitungo batagira, bagatira amazu atari ayabo, bagakodesha amamodoka ahenze, mbega bakirarira bishoboka kuko bamaze kubona ko nibitamera gutyo bashobora kubengwa. Njye ngukunda naguhitiramo kubengwa mutarabana kuruta ko yazakubenga noneho munabana utagifite andi mahitamo. Mube maso musenge mukiranuke Imana izabahuza n’abo yabageneye bazababera igisubizo aho kubabera ikibazo.

3. NDAGUKUNDA NUBWO

Mu by’ukuri uru rukundo ntiwarutandukanya n’urwo Yesu yakunze itorero. Aha ni hamwe icyo mugenzi wawe azakwifuzaho akakigukorera mbere yo kukigusaba. Aha ni hamwe atazatinya kukubwira uko ari n’intege nke ze kuko atazaba yikanga ko yabengwa kuko azi ko umukunda ntacyo ushingiyeho.

Ndagukunda nubwo: uri umukene; mugufi; muremure; udafite akazi; utize amashuri menshi; ureshya gutyo; abandi bakwanga; iwacu batagushaka; nabizira…
Bya bindi byose twabonye haruguru, biza ari ishimwe, bishyigikira urukundo kandi Imana igahabwa icyubahiro. Naho iyo ari byo bibanje bishegesha urukundo aho kurushyigikira bikarusenya.

Uru rurajya gusa n’urwo Rusi yakunze Nyirabukwe ubwo yangaga gutandukana nawe bakagumana mu bibazo. Iyo ikibazo kije mu rugo rutubakiwe kuri uru rukundo, gisiga gisenye inkingi runaka muzo urugo rwubakiyeho. Iyo kije mu rugo rwubakiye kuri uru rukundo, gisiga cyubatse amateka ubuhamya bikaba ishimwe ndetse bikanaba inkingi ikomeza urugo.

None uwo mwenda kubana ubona koko agukunda? Cyangwa afite izindi mpamvu zimusunika zihabanye n’urukundo? Nonese koko wowe uramukunda? Cyangwa ufite izindi mpamvu zigusunika kubana nawe? Wikwishuka ngo bizagenda biza, ibitaraje mu isiza ntabwo bizaza mu isakara. Ubutaha tuzarebera hamwe urukundo rw’irambagiza n’urukundo rwo mu rugo.

Komeza ubane natwe, ushobora kutugezaho igitekerezo cyawe, icyifuzo cyo gusengera, ikibazo cyangwa inyunganizi. Yesu aguhe umugisha!

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