Urushako rwiza. Donato Anzalone

Hari umugani uvuga ngo, “amaso akunda ntareba, ariko gushakana bigafungura amaso.”

Ubuzima bw’abashakanye ni ikibazo cyugarije isi! Ndetse muri iki gihe gushaka bisigaye ari ikintu cyo kwitonderwa. Ariko na none hari n’abandi benshi bemeza ko ubukwe ari ikintu cyiza, nubwo kubana bidahora byoroshe.

Nkuko uriya mugani wabivuze, “ amaso akunda ntareba, ariko gushakana bigafungura amaso.” Nyuma y’urushako, bikunze kugaragara ko uwo mwashakanye atameze nk’uko wamutekerezaga. Bamwe bamenya ibyo batari bazinanyeho, ibyo bakekaga ko bakwihanganira mu gihe barambazanyaga bagasanga batagishoboye kubyihanganira.

Na none hari igihe abashakanye babaho nk’akamenyero, ugasanga babanye batabanye, nta rukundo rw’abashakanye rukibarimo. Iyo urushako rutarimo ibyakagombye kurubamo, rutakaza isura yarwo. Birakwiye rero ko dufata ingamba hakiri kare iyo tubonye hari ibimenyetso bibi bitangiye kugaragara mu rushako rwacu. Akenshi abantu bajya kugisha inama abakozi b’Imana baramaze gufata umwanzuro wo gutandukana.

Hinga rero turebere hamwe infunguzo zo kugira urushako rwiza.

Kuganira hagati y’abashakanye ni imwe mu nzira zikomeza urushako
Ibi birasobanutse neza. Urushako rutarimo kuganira ni nk’umutsima utagira ifu! Ntabwo byashoboka kugira urushako rwiza nta kuganira birimo. Ngiye gukora ubukwe, inshuti yanjye imwe yarambwiye ngo: « Niba ushaka kuzagira urugo rwiza, ugomba kwitoza kuzahora uganira n’umufasha wawe byibuze iminota 30 ku munsi. » Ibi nasanze ari ukuri.

Kuganira ni amaraso y’urushako, bitari uko, nta cyo twarutegerezaho.
Kubaha no kuganduka ntibigomba kubura hagati y’abashakanye.
Urushako nyarwo rushingira ku kubahana no kuganduka. Mu byifuzo abagore bagira, harimo kubahwa, hanyuma abagabo nabo bagakunda kugandukirwa. Ibi iyo bitubahirijwe ntabwo urushako rugenda neza. Umugabo agomba kubaha umugore we, umugore na we akagandukira umugabo we.

Birashoboka cyane ko usanga abashakanye babwirana ngo : « ntabwo unyubaha, ntabwo unkuda ». Kubwanjye abagabo bakabaye bafata iya mbere mu gukunda no kubaha abafasha babo. Gukunda no kubaha birajyana, nkuko kubaha no kuganduka bidasigana. Iyo rero abagore bumva ko bakunzwe, biraborohera kuganduka ndetse no guca bugufi, bitari iby’uburetwa.

Ni nako abagabo iyo bumva bubashwe, biborohera gukunda abafasha babo, hanyuma bigakomeza bityo, bakundana, bakubahana.
Interuro eshatu sitagomba kubura hagati y’abashakanye
Ndangiza, ndagira ngo mbabwire aya magambo atatu atagomba kubura hagati y’abashakanye : « Ndagukunda », « Ngusabye imbabazi »hamwe na « Ndakubabariye ».

Abagore bakenera kumva iri jambo buri munsi : « Ndagukunda ». Ni ngombwa ko abashakanye bahora bibuka aho batangiriye, ntibarambirwe kubwirana uburyo bakundana. Ibi bituma urukundo rwabo rukomera.

Abanyarwanda babivuga neza ngo nta zibana zidakomanya amahembe. Ni yo mpamvu iri jambo ngo “ngusabye imbabazi” ryakagombye guhora hafi mu kanwa k’abashakanye. Twese turakosa, tugasanga twavuze amagambo tutakagombye gukoresha, tugakora ibyo tutakagombye gukora. Gusaba imbabazi rero bikemura byinshi.

Iyo dusabye imbabazi, tuba twemeye amakosa twakoze.

Ibi bisaba guca bugufi. Guca bugufi bikomeza urugo nkuko essence ituma imodoka igenda. Twemere amakosa yacu, tumenye aho twababaje abandi, tudategereje ko iminsi yicuma.

Hanyuma birumvikana ko iyo dusabwe imbabazi tugomba kuzitanga kuko ijambo ry’Imana ribidutegeka. Imbabazi ni isoko yo kubohoka n’ubwiyunge.

Imana ibahe umugisha.