Sobanukirwa neza n’igikorwa cyo Kurambagiza.

Ni iyihe ntego yo kurambagiza?

Kurambagiza byagombye kuba bifite intego nziza bigamije. Byagombye gufasha umusore n’umukobwa kureba niba bashobora kuzabana.

Icyakora, hari abo mu rungano rwawe bashobora kudaha agaciro ibyo kurambagiza. Bashobora gushimishwa no kugirana ubucuti n’umuntu badahuje igitsina, ariko nta ntego bafite yo gushakana na we. Hari n’abashobora kugira incuti nk’iyo bagamije gusa kugaragaza ko hari icyo bagezeho, cyangwa bakumva ko iyo ncuti yabo ari nk’ikintu bakwiratana mu bandi kugira ngo bakunde bemerwe.

Icyakora, akenshi ubucuti nk’ubwo budafite ikintu gifatika bushingiyeho ntiburamba. Umukobwa witwa Heather yaravuze ati “abenshi mu bakiri bato bagirana ubucuti, bashwana hataranashira icyumweru kimwe cyangwa bibiri. Ibyo bituma bumva ko ubucuti ugiranye n’uwo mudahuje igitsina butagomba kuramba. Ibyo rero bibategurira kuzatana, aho kubategurira kuzagira urugo rwiza.”

Mu by’ukuri iyo urambagizanya n’umuntu, bituma ari wowe yerekezaho umutima. Ubwo rero, mwagombye kurambagizanya mufite intego zikwiriye. (Luka 6:31.)

Umuntu urambagiza nta ntego yo gushaka afite, aba ameze nk’umwana ukinisha igikinisho aharaye maze yakirambirwa akakijugunya

Ngaho nawe tekereza: ese wakwifuza ko hagira ukinisha ibyiyumvo byawe nk’aho ari igikinisho cy’abana, akagirana nawe ubucuti bw’akanya gato, nyuma akakureka akigendera? Niba utabyifuza nawe ntukabikorere abandi. Bibiliya ivuga ko urukundo ‘rutitwara mu buryo buteye isoni. (1 Abakorinto 13:4, 5.)

Umukobwa ukiri muto witwa Chelsea, yaravuze ati “hari igihe nibwira ko kurambagizanya byagombye kuba ari ukwishimisha gusa, ariko iyo umwe abihaye agaciro undi akumva ari ukwishimisha gusa, ntibiba bikiri ibyo gukina.”

Inama. Kugira ngo witegure igihe cy’irambagiza no gushaka, soma muri 2 Petero 1:5-7, maze utoranye umuco ukeneye kunonosora. Nihashira ukwezi, uzarebe aho ugeze wiga uwo muco n’aho ugeze uwushyira mu bikorwa.

Ese ngeze igihe cyo kurambagiza?

Ese wumva abakiri bato batangira kurambagiza bafite imyaka ingahe?

Noneho, baza icyo kibazo umwe mu babyeyi bawe.

Ushobora gusanga igisubizo watanze gitandukanye n’icyo umubyeyi wawe. Icyakora ushobora no gusanga atari uko bimeze. Birashoboka ko uri umwe mu basore n’inkumi babaye baretse kurambagiza, kugeza igihe bazaba bakuze bihagije kandi biyizi neza.

Uko ni ko umukobwa witwa Danielle ufite imyaka 17, yahisemo kubigenza. Yaravuze ati “iyo nibutse uko natekerezaga mu myaka ibiri ishize, nsanga ibyo nifuzaga ku wo tuzashakana bitandukanye cyane n’ibyo mwifuzaho muri iki gihe. Mvugishije ukuri, nanjye ubwanjye ubu numva ntiyizeye ku buryo nafata uwo mwanzuro. Nyuma y’imyaka runaka, igihe nzaba numva ko nkuze mu bitekerezo, nzareba niba natangira kurambagizwa.”

Hari indi mpamvu yagombye gutuma uba uretse kurambagiza. Bibiliya ikoresha imvugo ngo “igihe cy’amabyiruka,” ishaka gusobanura igihe irari ry’ibitsina riba ari ryinshi, igihe umuntu arushaho kugira icyifuzo cyo gukunda uwo badahuje igitsina (1 Abakorinto 7:36). Gukomeza kugirana ubucuti bwihariye n’umuntu mudahuje igitsina ukiri muri icyo gihe cy’amabyiruka, bishobora gutuma irari rikugurumanamo ryiyongera cyane, mukaba mwakwishora mu bikorwa bidakwiriye.

Icyakora bagenzi bawe bo bashobora kuba batabibona batyo. Abenshi muri bo baba bifuza cyane kumva uko imibonano mpuzabitsina imera. Icyakora, ushobora kwikuramo imitekerereze nk’iyo, kandi ibyo ni byo usabwa (Abaroma 12:2).

N’ubundi kandi Bibiliya igusaba ‘guhunga ubusambanyi’ (1 Abakorinto 6:18). Nutegereza ukageza igihe uzaba umaze kurenga igihe cy’amabyiruka, bishobora ‘kukurinda ibyago. (Umubwiriza 11:10.)